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EMERGENCY C0MM1SS10NS OPEN

I really hate to do this since I typically don’t ask for these types of things but I got into a bit of an accident and the front bumper of my car needs to be fixed. Currently not insured, so gotta pay out of pocket. I’m currently unemployed and have enough in my bank account, but this is gonna put a huge dent in what’s already in there.

I’ll be doing $12 shaded chibi commissions. Here’s some samples of my work:


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Please understand I will need payment upfront. DM me if interested!

Donations will also be very much appreciated!! Every dollar helps! Påy.pál.mě is @/PKGameDev

$10.91 / $1000 (This end goal is just an estimate. Crossing my fingers hoping the actual cost won’t be this much)

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workingitinportland:

IS BEING HYDRATED REALLY WORTH ALL THIS PEEING?

Hi friend! Fun fact! The human body can only absorb one liter of water per hour, and not all at once! Likely the reason you’re peeing so much is because you’re taking in too much water at a time, so your body just flushes it through your system as opposed to absorbing it. A good rule is ¼ liter every 15 minutes. Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely times that I want to (and will) glug a whole liter like it’s nothing, but steady hydration throughout the day is key! -Your friendly local wilderness first responder who rehydrates people for their job :)

Dang okay 📝

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headspace-hotel:

random, but I think the way people talk about abusers as hypercompetent, calculating manipulators that Know exactly what they’re doing makes it easier for people to get into abusive relationships

The people who abused me prolly had no idea what the fuck they were doing. It was still bad! I still don’t regret buggin out!! But I don’t think they had a secret wall covered in red string linking notes like “How to fuck up this person specifically”. Pretty sure they were in their own bubble the whole damn time, actually, and yeah, that does make it harder to recognize or get out of

THIS ^^^

This is why I always say that in abusive relationships, intention means nothing and results mean everything. I spent so long forgiving people who treated me like shit for treating me like shit because I was convinced (and maybe I was even right, who knows) that they didn’t MEAN to. Even when they refused to listen to my objections or change their behavior, it wasn’t because they necessarily wanted to hurt me - it could be that I hadn’t explained myself well enough, it was really hard for them to think/act differently because of trauma or circumstances, etc.

And then one day I realized none of that fucking mattered, because I was being treated like shit and I was miserable. It didn’t matter if that was the INTENT of their actions, that was still the RESULT, and I didn’t deserve to be treated like shit no matter what was going on with them. I’m a person who deserves just as much consideration as they do, but they were the only ones being considered.

The difference between “won’t” and “can’t” is purely academic. Whether they won’t or can’t treat you better, you can and should go find people who will. No one is entitled to your suffering for their shitty behavior, or to have relationships they don’t properly maintain.

As someone who received their personal trauma through other children my own age (i was like 8 or something), this is so important.

People sometimes don’t know better. But if they don’t change, if they keep abusing you, keep blaming you for their own mistakes and make you feel dumb about everything you do, then you, as a Person yourself, can never make it right with them.

Set your lines. Warn people of those lines and make them pay the consequences, when they cross them. Even if you lose them or make them angry. You’re a person too and they do not own you.

It took me 15 years to recognise that I didn’t HAVE lines. That the few ones I had were too close for comfort and made me aggressive as hell when toed.

It is the people who don’t know better that will hurt you the most. And those who won’t change their behavior for you, are the most dangerous ones.

Stay safe.

This post articulates something I’ve felt for years but have struggled to put into words. It’s so important. And I wish I had heard this message like 20 years ago instead of now. I hope this information can protect people in the future.

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